My husband and I have been talking about things we can do to spice up our sex lives. Why you might ask? Well, we have been together for a while and we want to make sure things stay fresh in the bedroom.
The is the only person I am having sex with for the rest of my life, I don’t want to get bored with something I happen to love doing!
So we listed out a few things we would both be interested in trying, and BDSM was on both of our lists. Doesn’t that sound fun and…. Dare I say…. Erotic?
So obviously, when neither of us really knew how to get into it, we turned to the one person on planet earth that can help us. Bill Gates…. I mean Google!!!
So first thing is first, unless you are prepared for the consequences, do not just type BDSM into your google search bar. Do not do a dumb like I did! Just throwing out that caution.
But in researching BDSM, so we can do it safely (neither of us are billionaires like Christian Grey so we gotta practice safety), I have read a lot of things that focus on aftercare after a scene.
Which, I mean, aftercare is great. Even if you are not into BDSM, do the aftercare thing. But the one thing, I really have not found info on, is what a “scene” is.
I will be completely honest with you. I love writing, and when I think of a “scene” I think of setting the scene. Yah know, creepy music, wind howling through tree branches. Nothing particularly sexy is coming to mind when I think “scene”.
And for a community that is so into bringing in new members and encouraging practicing and trying, why does no one actually go into details about what a “Scene” may entail. (Also, not a negative thought about BDSM).
So of course, I did the only and only thing I can do. I asked my husband. And he really didn’t know either. So… I guess… onward we go in the quest to figure out how to spice up our sex